how to socialize?

How to socialize is always very important in our life. I never notice that I am really bad at it until I saw my ex co-work at the bus station today. When I saw him, I just pretended I didn’t see him, and then he came to say hi to me, I hi back. After that, he told me about his supervisor’s retirement party today at the library. I kept saying “ok, really? oh, cool, this and that..” then finally he said “sorry, I have to make a phone call, it is very important call.” I could tell from his eyes that he was trying to stop conversation with me. Actually I was very happy at that moment when he said he has to make a call because I don’t know what to talk about anyway. But I also realized that this episode demonstrates that it is very difficult for me to go out and make friend with American people.

There was another episode which shows that I don’t know how to socialize with American people especially those people is lot older than me. After final, my accounting classmates decided to have fun with our taxation professor, he is very outgoing and humor. Then we went to a bar. This was first time of my life to go to bar with my professor. It seems very odd for me because I always keep those Chinese traditions---teacher is always superior. When my professor came to me, he asked me what kind of drink I would like; I told him that I don’t drink alcohol and I don’t go to bar. I don’t know why I said that. haha And then I didn’t know what common topic we have, I was blank at that moment. Then he went to my other classmates. I saw them were very happy and have lot things to talk about. They were talking about wine and girls and life. Why can’t I do that? i think it is because I don’t know how to find a common point which give us a chance to open up ourselves. If I succeed in finding similar interests, it would be easier for me to proceed further with him. And plus, I don’t know how to build a rapport with him as well. I should not make him feel superior, but I failed.

I think I have to build up my communication skill with people who are not in my circle. No one will success without good communication skill. Nothing in the world is difficult if you set your mind to it. Life is all about how to be wiser by falling.

Summer Plans

Hey, everyone. Long time no blog.

Summer is coming finally. Right now is 90 degree outside, and it is first time of this year I feel summer is coming. For some reasons, I hate winter, and I hate cold weather, but I think God also make a joke of me, because I have allergy to the sun which means I cant go to beach, and I cant insolate under the sun as well. It is called PLME, nick name “Vampire Disease”. I don’t think there is any treatment for it, because it gets recovered whenever it wanna get. What can I do with it?

There is one thing that I am very happy with for this summer unless, which is everyone says that I got slim down. Xixixi…I can have my very sexy dress on… oh yeah!

I have lots plans before summer break: get my driver license, get a job with higher wage, or maybe start my own business, and study Cantonese and English and more… but none of these seem done for now. I haven’t even get started. I always tell myself, don’t be lazy anymore, and always try something new. But I cant resist temptation. I have to change. There are too many pressure deep inside my mind which I cant escape anyway. All things are difficult before they are easy. So I think the first thing to do is to start write blog at lease once a day so that I can improve my English more. And the next thing it that to confirm my goal(since the bad economic is still going on, it is very hard to find a job which I will satisfied, so I decide to operate a own business). “Living without an aim is like sailing without a compass.” (Alexander Dumas, Davy de La Pailleterie, French Writer) 　
Then I will go look at those properties which my friend introduces me. I know it is very hard because I have no experience. Therefore I decide to make a partner with one of my best friend. If two people are of the same mind, their sharpness can cut through metal.We don’t wanna waste our time anymore. We have to get it done during this Summer. No matter it works well or not, at lease we gain more experiences. “man proposes, God disposes.”

Learning is like rowing upstream: not to advance is to drop back.